Resentment Equals Rust
Have you ever tried to ride a bike with a rusty chain?
The sound is awful, and worse yet, pedaling becomes next to impossible.
That’s how I think of resentment and its effect in our lives. It’s like rust, eating away at the very engine that drives us forward each day, destroying our attempts at positive thinking.
It’s not that we shouldn’t acknowledge the hurtful things that happen to us. I think acknowledging them is the first step in moving past them. But sometimes, we get stuck there. Rusting away under the acidic assault of dwelling.
Recognize any of these question? What if I had. . . How could she dare. . . Why would anyone. . .
Here’s a small example. I recently had to make a phone call regarding a utility bill that needed to be paid for a piece of property my husband and I bought. We weren’t sure how to set it up or even which county office was the appropriate one for what we needed. So I had to make a few phone calls before finally landing in the correct place. Everyone I spoke to up until this point could not have been nicer or more helpful.
But then the person I needed to talk to answered my very first question with a tone that let me know things weren’t going to go well. She clearly thought I was of sub-par intelligence.
It’s hard not to let something like this bother you. And I could have easily let it ruin my day. But once I drew in that initial breath and slowly blew it back out again, I decided that her behavior was not really about me. It’s about how she chooses to interact with the world, and that’s not my choice.
How can we keep our chains from rusting?
- Accept that we cannot change the behavior of others. Only our own. We can make a deliberate choice not to let another individual be the trigger for our happiness or unhappiness.
- Think about this quote: “Remember that everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something, and has lost something.” – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
- Realize that we are far healthier when we focus our minds on the positive, on the good things that happen to us, on the good things we can put back into the world.
Let’s put a little oil on our chains today and pedal on.
Never tried one of my books? If you like stories that take you away for a bit, feature characters looking to live fulfilled lives with love and dogs and relationships that matter, I’d love to give you a FREE copy of Good Guys Love Dogs! Please just click here.
I sometimes include affiliate links in my posts if it is appropriate. I only include those links for products I truly love and am excited about sharing with my readers.